Once your wedding countdown starts, there’s really no going back, because there are a million things for you mighty bride-to-be to think about, including the grand engagement party. Now of course, some couples might decide to skip that little detail, but for those of you who deem it vital – like us – then planning wisely is of dire necessity.

So yeah basically, once he pops the question, not only do you have to spread the news, but you also have to think about all the issues concerning the engagement party down to the wedding day. First things first, let’s all agree that the wedding festivities can be quite the hassle for the bride-to-be to handle on her own, so any help she can get is very much welcomed – enter the maid-of-honor and bridesmaids. That said, preparing some ground rules seems like the perfect idea to kick-start the festivities. And here’s how:

1. Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the party. But since we’re right in the middle of the 21^st century, you should be deciding that with your fiancé. If you want to be the one throwing the engagement party, then by all means, go ahead. You can even have two parties if your parents insist on organizing one for you.
2. Time to pick a date! It’s a decision both you and your fiancé should take together. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you don’t overwhelm yourself with the first party too soon. Start throwing the first celebration at least a month after the proposal. After all, you already have a year-worth of crazy preparations ahead of you.
3. Pick a place and consequently a theme that best fits your wants and needs. Don’t limit yourself to little options; in other words, if you’re not into the whole run-of-the-mill engagement party, then you don’t really need to stick to your home or another restaurant to host it. You can always go for a fancy bar or a lovely rooftop – all of which should be decided according to the formality of the event.
4. Now let’s talk guest-list. Do not, in any way whatsoever, over-invite. It’s never a good idea. Think about it this way, if you don’t want these people at your wedding, then you sure as heck don’t want them at your engagement party. So for starters, think about the size of your wedding and plan the guest-list accordingly – because whoever you decide to invite to your engagement should automatically be invited to your wedding.
5. The décor and the menu should come right after the guest-list and the formality of the party. Your choices can vary between a seated dinner or a buffet, a black-tie party or a themed one. Once you pinpoint your options, you can go ahead with the execution of the party.
6. Don’t forget about the photographer. After all, don’t you want memories of the first of many celebrations?
7. Finally, decide on your outfit. While it’s a common misconception that brides should also wear white to their engagement party, we beg to differ. Pick the color of your choice and make sure you stand out.

Cindy Menassa