Believe it or not, a groom’s role does not begin and end with showing up to the wedding and saying the right name – a la Ross from ‘Friends’. Living in the 21st century has allowed us to be more progressive and embrace feminism, where the bride’s role to plan the entire wedding is cut in half. And who handles the other half? You, my man.
Think of it this way; if you can successfully plan a whole wedding together, you will also be able to plan countless other life-events! So what really is your role in the planning process and eventually, on the big day? While your fiancée has surely dreamt of this day her whole life, sparing her the pointless details might not be so bad. The first thing you can help out with are the long – long – research hours. Take some time out of your very busy schedule to check out the wedding industry’s biggest planners, venues, photographers and whatnot. But whatever you do, don’t forget to consult with your fiancée, or forever be doomed to face the wrath of Bridezilla herself – true story. Once you’ve narrowed down the list of wedding planners, make sure to attend all the meetings with your future bride. What she needs is support and commitment from your end, as there will be a lot of critical decisions to be made. Make sure to voice your opinions and to have some say in all matters at hand – that is until you reach your limit and anger your fiancée (we know you will).
But the most important thing a groom can do come the big day, is to make sure the bride is stress-free and happy. Granted, there will be some bumps on the road and both of you will have to face some problems along the way, but that’s where you come in. Be the gentle reminder that a wedding cannot be perfect and that at the end of the day, it’s a celebration of love and happiness and nothing could ever ruin that. Cheesy, but very true. If you’re a team-player, you’re a winner. Happy wedding day!
Cindy Menassa
